If you've read much of my blog, you might have noticed that I have mentioned shame before; my lifelong companion, the devil on my shoulder, the bane of my existence, the stalker around every corner. I'm fighting the good fight, though. In talking about this with my therapist, she suggested that I spend a little more time with shame. Try to figure out what makes him tick. Get to know him better. Try to understand the good heart beneath the selfish, malicious beast. There must be a reason he's joined himself to my hip, no? So...I decided to go on a date with shame.
Didn't turn out too well. I let him know that I didn't want to see him any more.
Have you ever read Healing the Shame that Binds You? I found it very useful-- it's by John Bradshaw, who did that PBS series in the 70s or early 80s.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the suggestion! As a therapist, I've read and recommended the book many times. I was mostly trying to be humorous in these sketches but shame definitely has a way of holding on so it's hard to get rid of all of it. :-/
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